Best Relationship Advice from "I Can't Tell You Why" Eagles, 1979

For those who can be vulnerable in their relationship

Fun fact, find the answer at the bottom of this email.

Glenn Frey, who is a founding member who played guitar, keyboard and sang vocals, had this to say about this song: "If you could put two songs into a time capsule, as Eagles best work, those two songs would be; “I can’t tell you why” and ___________.”

Feel-Good Relationship Advice from the Greatest Love Songs!

Every time I try to walk away
Something makes me turn around and stay

For those who can be vulnerable in their relationship

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Lyrics

Look at us, baby, up all night
Tearing our love apart
Aren't we the same two people
Who lived through years in the dark?

Every time I try to walk away
Something makes me turn around and stay
And I can't tell you why

Ooh, that careful intro with the simple percussion and sexy bass line feels like you just tapped on, then opened, a door to a dimly lit room, and now you are about to have a heavy conversation.

Artistic perfection.

I love the lyrics “something makes me turn around and stay, and I can’t tell you why”. The heart of the song is that invisible string that binds them.

There are profound lessons only the intimate relationship can teach us.

The intimate relationship can test our self-compassion and just how lovable we feel we are.

Ask yourself this: Do you love someone for who they are or for who you need them to be?

Robert N. Johansen Ph.D. “Don’t Break up, a good argument for staying together”

Lyrics

When we get crazy, it just ain't right
(Try to keep your head, little girl)
Girl, I get lonely too
You don't have to worry, just hold on tight
(Don't get caught in your little world)
'Cause I love you

These lyrics are a warning about self-sabotage as well as a commitment, “Just hold on tight, ‘cause I love you”.

Written by Tim Schmidt, Don Henley and Glenn Frey wanted to create an R & B song loosely based on Schmidt’s experience. It is a calming song, admitting the flaws and also the commitment.

Cash Box said that "Schmit’s aching, near-falsetto vocal here adds immeasurable depth to the haunting quality of this love song, with a tastefully sparse instrumental.

Lyrics

Nothing's wrong as far as I can see
We make it harder than it has to be
And I can't tell you why

Every relationship will be tested, right?

This lyric “we make it harder than it has to be, and I can’t tell you why” expresses beautiful vulnerability.

Hardships will happen and they are not a reason for a relationship breakdown, the reactions to the hardships can be a reason. This is a good example to being willing to look at, talk through, and heal some pieces of a breakdown in a relationship.

We should take each moment as it comes along. If we can be as smooth and cool as the outro, the end of this song, we’ll make it through.

You can tell it’s a really good relationship when you can be vulnerable with your weaknesses and they will applaud your courage and they are excited to have a deeper, more real relationship with you. Now they are relieved because they don’t have to hide their weakness from you.

Mark Kailing, PsyD 

Author “The Sacred Art of Living through Self-Mastery”

Think about this…

Are you someone who can enter, or invite, a heavy conversation with your sweetheart in a careful, respectful way?

Are you able to stay calm while processing flaws in your relationship?

Are you able to own your weaknesses and willing to try to improve?

Are you able to express verbally and psysically (tone of voice, touch of hand, body language etc.) your commitment to the relationship?

Key Take Aways
  • There are profound lessons only the intimate relationship can teach us.

  • You can tell it’s a really good relationship when you can be vulnerable with your weaknesses and they will applaud your courage and they are excited to have a deeper, more real relationship with you.

Fun Fact Trivia:

Glenn Frey, who is a founding member and played guitar, keyboard and sang vocals, had this to say about this song: “If you could put two songs into a time capsule, as Eagles best work, those two songs would be; “I can’t tell you why” and ___________.”

Answer: “One of these nights”

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