Best Relationship Advice "Head Above Water" Avril Lavigne, 2018

by LaDena Kailing Garr, Certified Life Coach since 2011

Fun fact, find the answer at the bottom of this email.

Avril has hared the exact moment she came up with the title for this song. What was it?

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Lyrics

I gotta keep the calm before the storm
I don't want less, I don't want more
Must bar the windows and the doors
To keep me safe, to keep me warm

Yeah, my life is what I'm fighting for
Can't part the sea, can't reach the shore
And my voice becomes the driving force
I won't let this pull me overboard

According to Good Morning America, Avril Lavigne wrote these lyrics which are basically a prayer to God asking for help as she tries to get through a difficult time in her life. She was in a harrowing battle with Lyme Disease.

Spiritual Cry for Help:

The lyrics are a prayer to God, using the metaphor of a storm and drowning at sea to symbolize her struggles.

Desperation and Resilience:

"Head Above Water" captures a moment of near-overwhelm and fear, but also a fierce will to live and a plea for divine intervention to keep her from being pulled under.

Turning Pain into Music:

Lavigne channeled her painful experiences with the disease and other life challenges into the song, transforming her suffering into a powerful and emotional piece of music

"I had accepted death and could feel my body shutting down. I felt like I was drowning. Like I was going under water and I just needed to come up for air. Like I was in a river being pulled in a current. Unable to breathe.”

This song is described as empowering. It is about resilience and tenacity.

It is about faith in God that together you will endure.

Lindsay Elizabeth of Faithwire gave the song a positive review, calling it a "powerful worship ballad".

How does all of that tie into love? Love of self, life, and the love of God.

Lyrics

God, keep my head above water
Don't let me drown, it gets harder
I'll meet you there at the altar
As I fall down to my knees
Don't let me drown, drown, drown
Don't let me, don't let me, don't let me drown

Lyrics

So pull me up from down below
'Cause I'm underneath the undertow
Come dry me off and hold me close
I need you now, I need you most

It is a beautiful connection to trust someone else to pull you up, dry you off and hold you close.

When I was young I saw so much ugliness and despair that I was not sure that life was worth living. It was only after years of discipline, studying world religions and studying self-mastery that I was able to believe in God. When the missionaries found me I felt the Holy Ghost and they prayed with me. I never doubted the path of the Gospel. It changed my life from night to day.

My late husband, Mark Kailing, PsD, Author of “The Sacred Art of Living through Self-Mastery”
Think about this…

Do you have a love for self, life and a love of God?

Key Take Aways
  • It is a beautiful connection to trust someone else to pull you up, dry you off and hold you close.

  • A relationship with God can change your life from night to day.

Fun Fact Trivia:

Avril has shared the exact moment she came up with the title for this song. What was it?

Answer: Avril stated, “One night, I thought I was dying, and I had accepted that I was going to die. My mom laid with me in bed and held me,” she said. “I felt like I was drowning. Under my breath, I prayed ‘God, please help to keep my head above the water.’ In that moment, the song-writing of this album began. It was like I tapped into something. It was a very spiritual experience. Lyrics flooded through me from that point on.”

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