Fun fact, find the answer at the bottom of this email.

The song features a prominent riff from well-known harmonica player Delbert McClinton, what connection did Delbert have with the Beatles?

I wanna know if you’ll be my girl

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Lyrics

When I saw you walkin' down the street
I said that's the kind of gal I'd like to meet
She's so pretty, Lord, she's fine
I'm gonna make her mine all mine

A feel-good song if ever there was one!

Admittedly, my strongest connection to this song was due to the fact that "Hey! Baby" was used in the 1987 hit film Dirty Dancing in the scene in which Johnny and Baby dance on top of a log.

You can enjoy that clip by clicking here.

The simplicity of 60s music is endearing, however, a man asking a woman to be exclusively his, because she’s so pretty and fine, is not typically how a lasting relationship starts.

Does the thrill of the chase, still hold up today?

According to Karen Stollznow Ph.D. in her article in Psychology Today; “Playing hard to get” is when someone pretends that they’re less interested in a potential mate than they really are in order to encourage them to be more interested, especially in the courtship phase of a romantic relationship. Common tactics of this dating strategy include acting aloof and unavailable to the intended person, avoiding their calls and texts, appearing disinterested, and even flirting with or dating someone else. In some ways, it’s related to the saying, “Treat ‘em mean, keep ‘em keen.” These tricks are intended to motivate the suitor to chase after them and work harder for their attention. . Playing hard to get is believed to be an effective way to attract a mate. It’s an old staple of advice columns, well-meaning friends, and it’s a well-worn trope in popular culture. But does this classic dating technique really work?

The psychology behind playing hard to get

For a dating strategy that seems straight out of a romantic comedy, there’s actually a substantial body of research on the topic of playing hard to get. Some studies suggest that showing less interest could lead a potential suitor to desire someone more and put in more effort to woo them. As the theory goes, their uncertainty about romantic interest may lead them to think about this person more and then to pursue them more ardently. In some cases, playing hard to get can spark interest, creating a sense of intrigue and excitement. People are inclined to want what they can’t have. Those in pursuit may also relish the challenge and enjoy the thrill of the chase and catch.

As for the pursued, by making themselves unattainable, they may increase their perceived desirability and worth. This might be done to appear confident and not needy. Its purpose may be to “test” a potential partner’s willingness to commit. In their defense, those who play hard to get may have genuine intentions, for example, they don’t want to be seen as too desperate or “easy-to-get.” Some people might do it as a means of self-protection so the pursuer is less likely to take advantage of them, while others may do it to avoid dependence or closeness. Playing hard to get may be underpinned by avoidance anxiety or fear of intimacy, a type of anxiety about developing close emotional or physical connections with other people.

Lyrics

Hey
Hey, baby
I wanna know
If you'll be my girl

I recently watched a college football game and the band started playing this song. The crowd was chock full of college students, and 64 years later, this song still resonates. The crowd was singing at the top of their lungs!

Think about this…

Did you buy into the thrill of the chase at the start of your romance?

How did it play out for you?

Have you discussed the dynamics in how your relationship started with one another?

It’s not always easy to know what to say to generate deeper conversations and intimacy with your sweetheart. That’s why I’ve created 4 conversation starters to strengthen your romance.

You can get your free guide, as well as the details about the Remarkable Romance Program, available now: remarkable-romance-program.teachable.com/p/remarkable-romance-program

Key Take Aways

• Investment of time and energy is the best foundation for a lasting relationship

• Love is worth it!

Fun Fact Trivia:

The song features a prominent riff from well-known harmonica player Delbert McClinton, what connection did Delbert have with the Beatles?

Answer: While touring the UK in 1962 with the Beatles, McClinton met John Lennon and gave him some harmonica tips. Lennon put the lessons to use right away on "Love Me Do" and later "Please Please Me".

Love is the greatest adventure!

~LaDena, Your Romance Fulfillment Leader

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