Best Relationship Advice "Hold on to the Nights" Richard Marx, 1987

by LaDena Kailing Garr, Certified Life Coach since 2011

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Which iconic 80s song did not reach the #1 spot on the Billboard Hot 100 because of this song?

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Lyrics

Just when I believed
I couldn't ever want for more
This ever-changing world
Pushes me through another door

I saw you smile
And my mind could not erase
The beauty of your face
Just for awhile
Won't you let me shelter you?

This is one of the great 80s power ballads. There is so much emotion expressed!

I’m in love with the lyrics, “just for awhile, won’t you let me shelter you?” Chills. Most of us would love to hear those words spoken to us.

In psychology, being a "shelter" for someone else, particularly within the context of relationships, means providing a safe and supportive space for them to feel secure, emotionally protected, and able to explore and grow. It involves being a secure base from which they can venture out, knowing they have a reliable place to return to for comfort and support.

Being a shelter means offering emotional support, a supportive presence, respect and dignity, space for growth, and healthy boundaries.

by Deborah Ward Psychology Today

Lyrics

Hold on to the nights
Hold on to the memories
I wish that I could give you something more
That I could be yours

How do we explain
Something that took us by surprise?
Promises in vain
Love that is real but in disguise

What happens now?
Do we break another rule?
Let our lovers play the fool
I don't know how
To stop feeling this way

The someone I’ve been searching for is right there

Songfacts shared the following information;

When you meet the love of your life, but you are both already with someone else, you have a big decision to make and maybe a script for a romantic comedy. You might have to live with just the memories of your time together, holding on to the nights you've spent with each other.

Richard Marx tells us that this wasn't something that happened to him, but it did happen to someone he knew. Said Marx: "A friend of mine went through exactly that. There were parts of it that I could really relate to, but this guy just thought that he was in the right situation, but he met somebody else, and he was, 'Ohhh...' and the girl was involved with somebody already at the time, and they just never got together. They never made a go of it. I've lost touch with this guy over the years, but I remember him thinking, what if I had missed the right one. And all he had left was a brief time where they were hovering around each other and then they both ended up going back to who they were with.

Perhaps most people have a “what if” story in their history. Most of us will meet many potential partners in our lives, and it is possible there will be more than one soulmate that crosses our path. I consider that a blessing.

If we suffer we will appreciate even more when we experience joy.

My late husband, Mark Kailing, PsD, Author of “The Sacred Art of Living through Self-Mastery”
Think about this…

Did you have a “what if” story in your history?

Do you believe you can encounter more than one soulmate in your lifetime?

Key Take Aways
  • Being a shelter means offering emotional support, a supportive presence, respect and dignity, space for growth and healthy boundaries.

  • If we suffer we will appreciate even more when we experience joy.

Fun Fact Trivia:

Which iconic 80s song did not reach the #1 spot on Billboard Hot 100 because of this song?

Answer: Def Leppard’s “Pour some sugar on me”

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