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Best Relationship Advice "Kiss Me" Sixpence None the Richer, 1997
by LaDena Kailing Garr, Certified Life Coach since 2011 (Your Romance Fulfillment Leader)
LaDena Kailing Garr
January 14, 2026
Fun fact, find the answer at the bottom of this email.
The band performed this song live for a year and a half before recording it. The lyric “silver moon sparkling” was originally written a bit edgier. What was the original lyric before recording it?
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Lyrics
Kiss me out of the bearded barley
Nightly beside the green, green grass
Swing, swing, swing the spinning step
You wear those shoes and I will wear that dress
Oh, kiss me beneath the milky twilight
Lead me out on the moonlit floor
Lift your open hand
Strike up the band and make the fireflies dance
Silver moon's sparkling
So, kiss me
This song embodies 1990s magic. It was featured on the movie “She’s all that” as well as the first soundtrack to the wildly popular TV series “Dawson’s Creek”.
Chuck Taylor, of Billboard Magazine, called it "admirably well-written" and "brightly produced", further comparing the track to music by 10,000 Maniacs. British music columnist James Masterton also compared "Kiss Me" to the Sundays, calling it a cross with a mellow Cranberries song and a "wonderful tapestry of jangling guitars".
This dreamy truffle of a pop song had humble beginnings. Vocalist Leigh Nash recalled to Baeble Music the song's origins: "It's pretty crazy," she said, "Matt wrote that song overseas. At the time he was reading some Dylan Thomas poetry, and I think he just started writing that song, and the words were a little different, the song was a little bit darker, but it was basically the same song, and we performed it the very night he wrote it."
For me personally, as a huge fan of CCM in the 1990s, this song came out like a BANG! shooting the band from CCM obscurity to a mainstream spotlight. I’m glad they got to be the focus of attention. I love the sweetness of Leigh’s voice that matches the innocence of the lyrics. I love that the song was written by a tender-hearted male but feels right at home sung by a female.
Taylor Swift said that “Kiss me” was the first song she ever learned on guitar, when she was 12 years old.
Lyrics
Kiss me down by the broken tree house
Swing me upon its hanging tire
Bring, bring, bring your flowered hat
We'll take the trail marked on your father's map
Oh, kiss me beneath the milky twilight
Lead me out on the moonlit floor
Lift your open hand
Strike up the band and make the fireflies dance
Silver moon's sparkling
So, kiss me
One thing most fans can agree upon is that this song stirs joy in your heart. While young or new romance fills the soul with positivity it’s important to balance the reality as well.
According to Mark Travers Ph.D. in his article “Psychological forces behind the Honeymoon stage” that is featured in Psychology Today, here are some important things to keep in mind;
Key Psychological Phenomena of Early Romance
The Novelty Effect: Everything about a new partner feels new and fascinating, which activates the brain's reward system and releases dopamine, the "feel-good" hormone.
The Thrill of Uncertainty: Not knowing exactly where the relationship is headed creates psychological tension that can be stimulating and increases emotional engagement, similar to the excitement of a roller coaster. This uncertainty can make individuals think about the potential partner more, amplifying attraction.
Fantasy: People often project fantasies onto a new partner, which magnifies positive qualities and whitewashes negative traits.
Hormonal Influence: The early stages involve an increase in nerve transmitters like adrenaline and phenylethylamine (PEA), creating a biological "high" similar to being on cocaine. Serotonin levels may also drop, leading to obsessive thoughts about the partner.
"Red Flag" Blindness: The brain tends to focus on the positive aspects of the partner while downplaying or overlooking potential flaws or "red flags". This idealization helps to quickly build emotional bonds.
The first years of our marriage were very romantic, full of wonder and beauty as we built our lives together. We often called ourselves the richest poor people in the world because God made us look and feel rich despite our considerable poverty.
Think about this…
Do you create magical moments with your sweetheart?
Are you spontaneous, sweet, and romantic when having time together?
It’s not always easy to know what to say to generate deeper conversations and intimacy with your sweetheart. That’s why I’ve created 4 conversation starters to strengthen your romance. You can get your free guide, as well as the details to the Remarkable Romance Program available now: remarkable-romance-program.teachable.com/p/remarkable-romance-program
Key Take Aways
Young or new romance fills the soul with possibility, but couples can recapture that energy anytime.
Perspective can make any situation romantic no matter your finances, or other excuses.
Fun Fact Trivia:
The band performed this song live for a year and a half before recording it. The lyric “silver moon sparkling” was originally written a bit edgier. What was the original lyric before recording it?
Answer: The original lyric was “cigarettes sparkling”
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~LaDena, Your Romance Fulfillment Leader
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