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Best Relationship Advice "We Belong" Pat Benatar, 1984
For those who can say, “There are forces bigger than both of us, and we belong together”
LaDena Kailing Garr
February 12, 2025
Fun fact, find the answer at the bottom of this email.
“We Belong” is featured in what Will Ferrell comedy?
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For those who can say, “There are forces bigger than both of us, and we belong together”
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Lyrics
Many times I've tried to tell you
Many times I've cried alone
Always I'm surprised how well
You cut my feelings to the bone
Don't want to leave you, really
I've invested too much time
To give you up that easy
To the doubts that complicate your mind
Dan described this writing session;
“The first two lines of the song are the most important in the whole song. You've got to hear enough to draw you in, but not so much that you don't want to hear the rest of the song.
I was kind of lamenting an old relationship, and I kind of wanted to get the point across: "It doesn't matter if you agree, or disagree, if you're here or gone. There are things that are bigger than both of us, and we belong together." I started with that final line and built everything almost backwards. Then I thought, "Wouldn't it be fun for us to belong to all of this stuff: the light, the thunder ..." So it came from there.”
Many couples who get back together after a break up cite personal growth as the main factor in their reunion. When they were together the first time, issues like poor communication, unresolved trauma, or conflicting priorities drove them apart. It wasn’t until after the break up—when they were forced to face their shortcomings—that they could heal independently.
All couples know that communication is essential, but what sets reunited couples apart is their willingness to engage in courageous communication. They talk about the hard stuff—what went wrong, what they need now, and what they’re afraid of going forward. This transparency allows these couples to rebuild trust and foster deeper intimacy.
Lyrics
We belong to the light
We belong to the thunder
We belong to the sound of the words
We've both fallen under
Whatever we deny or embrace
For worse or for better
We belong, we belong
We belong together
Having a duel relationship, both a personal and working relationship, the wife-husband team of Pat Benatar & Neil Geraldo nails this chorus in every way.
I’ve heard Pat introduce this song live by saying, “you can’t tell me you didn’t sing this one into a hairbrush back in the day”.
Guilty. Sorry, not sorry.
Cash Box magazine said "This first single taken from the Tropico album is a collage of eclectic-electric effects and a sensitive and mature vocal offering from Benatar. Definitely not the standard Benatar/Geraldo hard rock jam, 'We Belong' is an ode to love which shows a whole world of vocal and instrumental nuances that have not been explored before by the powerful vocalist and her husband-producer-guitarist Neil Geraldo.
Lyrics
Maybe it's a sign of weakness
When I don't know what to say
Maybe I just wouldn't know
What to do with my strength, anyway
Have we become a habit?
Do we distort the facts?
Now there's no looking forward
Now there's no turning back
The song is about being destined to be together. Perhaps we cannot see it until we’ve spent a great deal of time investing in the relationship.
Not all love songs embrace the entire story. Love is all encompassing and we appreciate the good, and we navigate the not-so-good.
We do it together.
We show our love by showing our commitment.
Most people only know us superficially. Most of our friends and family have not truly known our highs and lows. Your spouse may be the only one to know you at your deepest level. What a valuable thing for someone to totally know you, and to totally love you.
Think about this…
Are you brave and kind when it comes to working through hardships together?
Are you able to engage in courageous communication?
Are you able to rebuild trust when you’ve hurt them, or they have hurt you, or possibly both?
Key Take Aways
Sometimes it takes personal growth in order to move forward in a relationship.
Love is all encompassing and we appreciate the good, and we navigate the not-so-good. We do it together.
What a valuable thing, to have someone totally know you, and love you.
I would be remiss without sharing my special Pat Benatar, ”We Belong” personal moment that happened in the Summer of 2013.
Just a few weeks after Mark died, I had second row seats to see Pat Benatar. She is an incredible performer, the audience was very polite and sat in their chairs, listening and enjoying but I just couldn't help myself....after all, it was an outdoor, summertime, rock concert, one of my favorite things in the world! I got up and danced and sang along and soon others followed suit. Pat pointed at me and my friend Cindy, a few times from the stage. Then, as we sang along with "We Belong" at the tops of our lungs, a huge rainbow stretched above the stage! Oh, what a wonderful memory! I can honestly say that I'm proud of myself for experiencing life and joy so fully, amid tremendous heartache. Steady on!
We couldn’t take photos at the event, however, the local paper did an article and took this photo of me, having a great time, with Pat Benatar!
Fun Fact Trivia:
“We Belong” is featured in what Will Ferrell comedy?
Answer: Co-Songwriter Dan said, “ I’m watching Ricky Bobby Talladega Nights, and I’m like, Are you kidding me? and it’s an integral scene in the movie!”
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